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Get Your Ex Girl Back – Robert Frost Style

Relationships can be extremely difficult for sure.  The more we love the more it hurts, especially when we are the one let go.  When a woman breaks up with you, your whole world seems to collapse and rightly so.  You want to get your ex girl back as soon as possible.  It's feels like salt being poured on an open wound and we think that the sooner we get her back, the sooner we won't feel the pain anymore.  We obsess over what went wrong and start to strategize ways to get her back.

While this is a common thing to do, it isn't such a wise thing to do.  Most times we cannot help but act this way but once we recognize that it's actually detrimental to our cause, we can let it go for a better strategy.  And when I say "strategy" I do not mean in the manipulative, deceitful ways that so many feel they need to use.  No sir.  To get your ex girl back for good will take more honesty and vulnerability than you have ever demonstrated before.

But you must be willing.

The best way to get your ex girl back never involves begging, pleading and apologizing.  Why? Because you are literally confirming in her mind that she made the right decision to let you go.  And you send the message that you are weak.  Women want a secure, stable man who wants her but doesn't need her. That distinction is subtle yet makes a world of difference as you attempt to win her back. Don't send flowers either.  Don't write her a card.  Don't "do" anything. Just sit tight and realize that how you deal with the breakup will have everything to do with whether you succeed or not.  

You get your ex girl back by doing the oppositeof what you think you should do.

 It is the counter-intuitive approach that will win her back every time. Men that react emotionally and stalk their girlfriends and do the usual rarely if ever win them back. Of course it sucks right now but you need to look at the big picture.  Robert Frost said it best in his poem, The Road Less Traveled..."I shall be telling this with a sigh somewhere ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood and I took the one less traveled by and that has made all the difference."  While it may feel like a permanent situation, there's a good chance you can get your ex girl back if you travel the less trodden path. Finally, resist the urge to put a timetable on when this may happen.  It may take two weeks, it may take two months.  The more faithfully you apply the counter-intuitive ways, the quicker she'll be back in your arms.